Thursday, November 4, 2010

12 Tips for a lousy day or week!

These tips are courtesy of Gretchin Rubin 
1. Resist the urge to “treat” yourself. Often, the things we choose as “treats” aren’t good for us. The pleasure lasts a minute, but then feelings of guilt, loss of control, and other negative consequences just deepen the lousiness of the day. So when you find yourself thinking, “I’ll feel better after I have a few beers…a pint of ice cream…a cigarette…a new pair of jeans,” ask yourself – will it REALLY make you feel better? Sure but then...It might make you feel worse!
2. Do something nice for someone else. “Do good, feel good” – this really works. Be selfless, if only for selfish reasons. If you are outside yourself you cannot be inside yourself:)
3. Distract yourself.  Watching a funny movie or TV show is a great way to take a break, or I often re-read beloved classics of children's literature.
4. Seek inner peace through outer order. Soothe yourself by tackling a messy closet, an untidy desk, or crowded countertops. The sense of tangible progress, control, and orderliness can be a comfort. Create a vista of calm for yourself. One less thing to get you down and a real boost!
5. Tell yourself, “Well, at least I…” Get some things accomplished. Yes, you had a horrible day, but at least you went to the gym, or played with your kids, or walked the dog, or read your children a story, or recycled. Remind yourself of those things...It might even be as basic as "At least I got out of bed !"
6. Exercise is an extremely effective mood booster – But if you go for a walk, make it a long one:) The first half will be spent dwelling on your problems and then as the time passes your thoughts will shift elsewhere.
7. Stay in contact. When you’re having a lousy day, it’s tempting to retreat into isolation but contact with other people boosts mood. So try to see or talk to people, especially people you’re close to.
8. It’s a cliché, but things really will look brighter in the morning. Go to bed early and start the next day anew. Also, sleep deprivation puts a drag on mood in the best of circumstances, so a little extra sleep will do you good.
9. Remind yourself of your other identities. If you feel like a loser at work, send out a blast email to engage with college friends. If you think members of the organization you belong to are mad at you, don’t miss the spinning class where everyone knows and likes you. We are more than one sided!
10. Keep perspective. Ask yourself: “Will this matter in a month? In a year?” I recently came across a note I’d written to myself years ago, that said “TAXES!!!!!!!!!!!!!” I remember the panic I felt about dealing with taxes that year; but it’s all lost and forgotten now.
11. Write it down. When something horrible is consuming my mind, I find that if I write up a paragraph or two about the situation, I get immense relief and get to  process  it with a different side of my brain.
12. Be grateful. Remind yourself that a lousy day isn’t a catastrophic day. Be grateful that you’re still on the “lousy” spectrum. Probably, things could be worse.


Kristine said...

These are some great tips. I get what you're saying about perspective; it's something that is very hard to grasp in the moment. But I find distracting myself with other tasks or fun actitivities helps me get a grip on this reality.

Amazing photos. The colours this year were just phenomenal.

Debra She Who Seeks said...

"Therapeutic clutter" -- first time I've heard it called that!

Karen said...

Great tips, awesome color in that photo.

Dolores said...

Wonderful tips to print out and keep handy for just such a time when needed.

Tvor said...

I live right around the corner from Albro Lake! Good tips too!

Ronnie said...

Your friend is one wise chick. Enjoyed reading her tips. Stunned by the beauty of your photography (again)! What a gorgeous place that you captured so well.

Anonymous said...

Great post and I LOVE the photos! They are great. Wish I had something even close to color like that near me.


Anne Gaal said...

Hi, Shelagh! Thanks for sharing these tips from Gretchen of The Happiness Project. I especially like tip #1 - it is so true, but we often forget how those "treats" can backfire! Beautiful fall photo! :-)